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  • To Vibrate or not to Vibrate…that is the question

    This week we have guest bloggers Maxine & Edwin of 'The Romance Guide'. We asked for their opinion both from a male and a females perspective on the use of love toys in a relationship - this is how they tackled the question that so many couples have faced…

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    He Said…

    Ah, toys in the bedroom… where to begin?

    Well, I’d love to tell you that back when I was a young adult just starting my sexual journey I was comfortable using toys in the bedroom… but that wasn’t the case. I would also like to tell you that in my early 30s I miraculously got over all of my hang-ups and introduced toys into my sexcapades… but nope, that didn’t happen either. The truth is, it took me until recently to get truly comfortable using toys with my partner. A proverbial switch had flipped but it didn’t happen overnight.

    I met my beautiful partner almost three years ago. Early on I knew that she was a sexual being and that we were a good fit. I also realised that she loves it when I take the lead in most areas of our relationship, and the bedroom was no different. Now, the sex we have is great and I want to keep it that way. What I don’t want is “toasted cheese sandwich sex”. A toasted cheese sandwich will hit the spot every once in a while, but I don’t want it every day.

    At the beginning of our relationship, my partner mentioned that she had a “friend” under the bed for those lonely nights when I wasn’t around, which I thought was a bit of a turn on. It was around this time that I started thinking about adding some toy-play into our “adventures” but I found myself a bit unsure of how to proceed. Now, let’s be clear on something: I never really had a problem with the idea of toys per se; it’s not like I had any deep seated issues about this kind of stuff. The truth was that my knowledge around using them properly was dubious, at best. And yes, I have seen “movies” before, but that kind of knowledge without experience won’t get you very far when you decide to bust out a vibrator for the first time. I realize that all women are different and what works for one won’t work for another, so I decided to keep it simple and steer clear of toys. I guess what it really came down to was that I didn’t want my partner to know that I didn’t know what I was doing. Every time a discussion about using toys would come up I would get uncomfortable, but I knew I would have to figure out some way to change. I knew I would have to break out of the head space I was in if I wanted our sex life to continue growing.

    So, in my quest to change, I decided to take the bull by the horns and buy a vibrator for my girl as a gift. My thinking was that if I bought the thing that I’d be more comfortable with busting it out during sex and that somehow I’d turn into this vibrator wielding sex god. Yeah… not so much. What it did do though was help raise my confidence a bit more, which was a step in the right direction. Shortly thereafter, my partner and I played a sex game, which we really enjoyed. It was around this time that we started communicating more freely about not just the game and toys, but sex in general. And that’s when it all shifted for me. I was able to let go of the limiting beliefs I had around toys in the bedroom and our sex life has never been better.

    So, if there’s one thing that I hope you take away from this, it’s that of the importance of communication. I want you to be so very unlike me and not be embarrassed to talk to your partner about this stuff.  Don’t let your insecurities or hang-ups get in the way or you may just miss out on something special between the two of you. There’s so much fun to be had; another world to explore.

    Happy Rabbit The Happy Rabbit

    She Said…

    I’m gonna let you in on a little secret...I love having sex with my man.  I love how we create our own little world of sensuality and openness, where we explore each other’s bodies and minds.

    Part of that exploration has involved introducing toys and games into our repertoire.  I am a very sexual person and, as I was single for quite some time before I met my man, I had a vibrator to help satisfy my needs.  So, from the time that our relationship became sexual, he was aware that I had a “friend” to help me out when he wasn’t around.  And whilst it wasn’t a deliberate strategy to get him comfortable with the idea of using a toy when were together, I believe talking about it built up a level of familiarity and made it easier to move into “toy play”.

    As with anything in a relationship, the introduction of toys into our bedroom play was all about communication.  Ironically, we didn’t have a specific conversation prior to the first time using one together.  Looking back, I wish we had had that conversation because I think it could’ve waylaid his concerns sooner.  Taking the time to talk about how we will use it, what it means to him and what it does for me etc., would have allowed the two of us to get clarity on our needs and desires.  It would have also allowed me to convey that it was not about replacing him or anything remotely close to that (like I said…I am a big fan of him & his “manhood”), it was about enhancing sexual pleasure…for the both of us.  We’ve certainly talked about these aspects of toy play (and more) since and the great thing is that he has discovered that they can be fun and stimulating for him too.

    It’s interesting, you know, that after talking with my girlfriends I’ve discovered, generally, it’s the woman who initiates the exploration in the bedroom.  It is once that door has been opened that he gets creative and is open to delving further into the depths of sexual discovery with her.  I believe that this is attributed to the primal & innate hardwiring in the male brain, which dates back to caveman days, to protect his woman.  Given that as women, we are at our most vulnerable in the bedroom, it makes sense that men leave it up to us to open up the sexual space at our own pace.

    On the flip side, a large vibrator with its proud phallic appearance can be quite intimidating for a man.  I’m sure thoughts like “Why does she want that?”, “Am not enough for her?” & “What am I doing wrong?” have passed through many a man’s mind when it comes to vibrator play.  As such, I decided that it would be my man’s decision when to introduce my toy to our play.  Just as I want to feel a certain level of comfort in the bedroom, even when my boundaries are being pushed, my man deserves that same respect.

    So, as you can see, the ebb and flow of the ever evolving dance between our needs, wants & desires in our relationship does not preclude the bedroom. There isn’t a “one size fits all” approach for this situation, nor is it black & white, but many “shades of grey”….

    www.theromanceguide.com.au

  • Life's Ultimate Love 'Potion'

    PHEROMONES – Do they really work?

    Looking for love or just looking to keep your lover in love? We’d all love to wave our magic wand or take a pill and instantly be transformed into a divine sex goddesses.  Sadly, the experts haven’t quite managed to create the ultimate solution just yet, however, there is a natural solution to stimulating lust and desire in men…

    If you watched ‘Ocean’s 13’ you will have seen Matt Damon use a pheromone patch to seduce an older lady, the effect was dramatic. If only it was that easy! The reality is there is a lot of conflicting information on  pheromones, but  if you’re looking to become a man magnet, then read on.

    Pheromones – What are they?

    Firstly, pheromones are real and they can genuinely have an effect on your emotions.

    Pheromones are naturally secreted by men and women, as well as animals and other species. They are volatile, odorous substances which are released by one animal and detected by another, causing some sort of physiological reaction, including sexual activity.

    Pheromones are detected by humans through special receptors in the nose (vomeronasal organ) and once detected they travel through to the hypothalamus in the brain.

    The hypothalamus is quite special, it is responsible for producing emotions and emotional response. According to research, the pheromones are subconsciously detected and literally elicit an internal sexual response.

    Pheromones – How do they work?

    There is substantial debate around pheromones in the science community, but what we do know is that scientists have run clinical experiments and found that men can subconsciously pick up women human pheromones and become sexually attracted to the wearer. Unfortunately while pheromones can trigger powerful responses in men, women can rarely produce sufficient quantities to have a dramatic effect.

    Unfortunately the pheromones that women produce can be destroyed by deodorants or hormonal imbalances, so it’s a great idea to top up your pheromone levels to ensure you continue to attract. Also as you get older, your pheromone levels decrease, so using products that have added pheromones can give the kick to restore what you think you’ve lost.

    It is a well-known fact that we need to be psychologically inspired if we want our body to play its role. The wonderful thing about pheromone enhanced products is that simply the act of applying the products can help. Placebo or not, that alone can work to boost your sexy self- confidence.  If you think ‘sexy’, then you will feel sexy!

    Animals use pheromones to attract their mate, so it’s certainly worth a try – at the end of the day we are all just animals!

    PASH PHEROMONE PRODUCTS

    PASH sells a number of pheromone enhanced products, but two of our most popular products are: Body Dew and Silky Sheets. While it can have the sexual attractant result, really it just makes people more ‘drawn’ to you.  Adding pheromones to your body will help get you a bit more attention and people will be nicer to you. It could also get you a few extra drinks while at the pub, so worth a try!

    BODY DEW

    http://www.pashparties.com.au/index.php/shop/body-beauty/sensual-massage/body-dew.html

    Body Dew is a must have for all women. This after shower or bath mouisterising body oil will make you feel silky smooth while hydrating your skin all day.  After your shower or bath, while you are still damp, spray Body Dew all over and massage into skin (avoid face). This oil is fast absorbing so it will not get on your clothes (avoid silks until completely dried and absorbed).  You will not need to put on any lotion throughout the day as this is long lasting.

    Other fabulous uses for this product are helping your tan last longer (the more mouisterised your skin is the longer your tan will last). Body Dew also enhances the colour of tattoos by rehydrating the skin.

    It’s the perfect product for the Aussies climate because we tend to be really hot after a shower and can perspire while getting ready, making it more difficult to put on lotion.  Body Dew is great because your skin should be a bit damp when you apply.  Great for the girl on the go.

    *This product does not contain parabins or sulfates. No animal testing

    Body Dew

    SILKY SHEETS

    http://www.pashparties.com.au/index.php/shop/body-beauty/sensual-massage/silky-sheets.html

    Silky Sheets is a product with multi-uses. This powdered spray can be used as an air freshener, room deodoriser, and creates a satin feel on bed sheets. The Forbidden fruit scent will make any room smell divine and helps create romance in the bedroom.

    But the real amazing aspect of this product is that you can also use this product to help ‘dry up’ any beads of moisture, which means you never have to sleep in the ‘wet spot’ again!

    Silky Sheets

    Of course, I'd love to her all about your views on pheromones - so let me know what you think!

    Yours PASHionatley

    Jo

    http://www.scientificamerican.com/article/pheromones-sex-lives/

    http://goaskalice.columbia.edu/pheromones-151-can-they-really-attract-mates-sex

  • Do you have a 3 Minute Man?

    Have you ever wondered how quick is too quick? And what's normal anyway? The conversation is often uncomfortable, or is simply not spoken about, for fear of making the man feel inadequate. However, ensuring both partners feel empowered in the bedroom is important. The term 'premature ejaculation' is banded around, but exactly what performance is defined by this term has not been understood. That is until now.

    In a report just released an international group of specialists have finally agreed on a definition for premature ejaculation (it's only taking them over 100 years since it was first documented!). So what 'officially' constitutes fast performance? Three minutes or less, say the specialists.

    According to research up to 30% of men peak too soon (know anyone ladies?), however, they are not deemed to have the condition 'premature ejaculation' unless they also are unable to control or delay their ejaculation during sex and these issues are causing psychological consequences. The reality is most men will suffer a quick round at some time due to stress, too much booze or many other reasons, the good news is that for most men, there are some easy solutions to help.

    So as much as we joke around, the reality is only about 2-3% of men suffer from the real condition. However, it got me thinking about how many men get distressed by the thought they may have something wrong and, of course, how many women are left wanting at the end of a session. Both of these situations can lead to stress in the relationship and challenges in the intimacy department, so it's important to addresses it when it, ahem, 'arises' and have some solutions on hand. A few solutions below - the main point is to try different techniques, communicate and don't give up just because something doesn't work the first time around. Remember, practice makes perfect1

    1.RELAX - anxiety is a big contributor. Rather than jumping straight in, spend intimate time together. Stimulate your partner manually, orally or with toys, and they may not need or want a long session to finish happy. A satisfied partner goes a long way to reducing the overall tension.

    2. CHANGE YOUR PATTERN - try some different methods, not only will it be fun, you will discover new opportunities to experience pleasure. 'Edging', or orgasm control, is the practice of maintaining a high level of sexual arousal while delaying ejaculation. It takes practice, but it gets easier over time.

    • Squeeze method: Have intercourse as usual until you feel like orgasm is seconds away. Abruptly stop other stimulation and gently squeeze your thumb and forefinger around the part of the penis where the glans meets the shaft (or your partner could do this). After squeezing for a few seconds, pause all stimulation for another 30 seconds before resuming intercourse. Repeat this pattern until you're ready to ejaculate.
    • Stop-and-start method: Have intercourse as usual until you feel yourself coming uncomfortably close to orgasm. Immediately and abruptly cease all stimulation for 30 seconds, then start again. Repeat this pattern until you're ready to ejaculate.

    3. PRODUCT SOLUTIONS - we've just launched a couple of excellent, market leading products that you could try, one is a spray and the other a gel. These products effectively provide a "numbing" effect to desensitise the penis and therefore delay the time before ejaculation. The upside is that you'll feel less sensation, which will delay ejaculation.

    In the case with these products a little goes a long way as the downside is the partner may suffer a loss of sensation as well—you can always add more, but you can't take it off, so use sparingly.

    The benefit of the gels / creams is that you can apply specifically to areas and the three main sensitive areas  you can apply the gel: under the head of the penis, the main vein and the testicles. Aim to use a 20 cent piece size of gel and divide into three - applying a third to each area. This topical application absorb into the skin to deliver a mild anesthetic to the sensory nerves below the top layer of skin of the penis. This allows men to have ejaculatory control but with less loss of sexual sensation, and reduces the transference to partners.

    4.PRESSURE TACTICS - it's amazing what can be achieved with a little anatomy knowledge! A fact many men (or women) know is that you can actually delay an oncoming ejaculation by applying pressure to one of two spots.

    • Perineum pressure: Pressing on the perineum, a spot midway between the scrotum and the anus, will help to stop ejaculation because this spot reaches through to the prostate gland. It is the prostate that contracts and expands during orgasm and then expels the ejaculation fluid.
    • Testes tug: When a man nears orgasm his scrotum rises up closer to his body. You can delay ejaculation by gently pulling the testes down and away from his body - but don't pull too hard ladies or you'll not only stop ejaculation, you'll stop everything!

    My key advice: don't give up! It is important to experiment with products, amounts and different ways. You are not always going to get the desired effect every time, but you can sure have fun trying!

    Jo Prolonger Max Control Gel

    http://www.smh.com.au/technology/sci-tech/premature-ejaculation-how-quick-is-too-quick-20140522-zrl1k.html

    Yours with everlasting PASHion

    Jo

  • Natural Aphrodisiacs - Do they really work?

    Sex is like food - almost anything will do to satisfy appetite and keep the species alive. But getting what you really want can be another matter altogether.

    When you make love is it an overwhelming, amazing, fireworks and waves of ecstasy experience or where you thinking about all the washing you still need to do? Does it lack the fire that you know you deserve? Is it a habit you perform on the set day and time of the month (or year?). Let's be honest, every love making experience isn't going to light the night sky, and the longer you are in a relationship, the more 'stuff' that gets in the way. However, sexual enjoyment is an important part of keeping your relationship alive and there are some simple things you can do to turn 'not tonight' into 'yes please, right now!'.

    There are, of course, so many factors that can lead to low libido or just plain boring sexual experiences - from stress, to illness, hormone imbalances and lack of sleep to name just a few - however there are some natural therapies that can powerfully enhance your appetite. Be aware that not all will work for you - but have fun trying!

    Named after Aphrodite (Greek goddess of love), many aphrodisiacs have a long history, but only some are actually effective. But don't be put off because real physiological effects can happen simply because you are doing something you believe in - that's why it's important to try it out, particularly the theory about chocolate...

    aphrodisiac

    The natural remedies that are widely reported on are as follows - you can check them out in a health shop or herbalist:

    - Yohimbe: widely viewed as the world's leading effective natural aphrodisiac.It's made from the bark of an African tree and is still use din Africa today during fertility rituals and before the introduction of Viagra doctors in the US prescribed it for impotence.

    - Agnus Castus: agnus castus berries.You can take this as a tea or sprinkle it on your food.

    - Catuaba: made from a shrub from the Brazilian rainforests and has a number of preported health benefits.

    - Celery, garlic, ginger, ginkgo biloba, ginseng, guarana: these are the familiar herbs we are all aware of, but with so much written about the potential positive properties, it's certainly worth a go! (although you might want to go light on the garlic just prior to jumping into bed).

    Don't underestimate the importance of keeping healthy. Much of the joy of sex is linked to optimal health, which everyone has the power to achieve. You would be amazed to know how easily and quickly low libido is reduced when you make improvements in diet, exercise and relaxation.

    Another way to help increase the passion in the bedroom is by introducing a topical stimulant which will increase the blood flow to the genital area. PASH has a range of products that are excellent in helping increase your pleasure and well worth checking out.

    12 Volt

    There is so much information on the internet - you should have no problem finding something that 'stimulates' you and at the very least, you should get a rush to the sex drive just doing all the fun research!

    http://article.wn.com/view/2013/07/30/Top_7_Aphrodisiacs_For_Women_To_Increase_Sex_Drive/

    Here's to your pleasure research! Enjoy and I would love to hear from you on what you found worked!

    Yours with PASHion

    Jo

  • Do I need a lubricant?

    As Australia's leading female sensuality company, we love to share our knowledge! We are constantly asked questions by women who want to know how to get more out of their sex lives. Usually they are too embarrassed to ask someone else, so they come to us. And one of the most common questions is: Do I need a lube and if so, which one do I use?

    The simple answer is yes, you absolutely should invest in a good quality lubricant. Women can experience vaginal dryness for varying reasons—from breastfeeding to menopause, or just on dryer days during our natural menstrual cycle. The good news is that lubricants reduce pain and should increase pleasure.

    For example, warming lubricants can help to add sensation during sex, particularly when used on the outside of a condom or applied directly to the vagina. Most lubricants on the market today are water-based, which is a good thing, they are the gold standard and compatible with condoms and particularly good if you are at all sensitive. However, just because it’s “water-based” doesn’t mean it’s irritation-free. If you are sensitive you should steer clear of products that contain propylene glycol or chlorhexidine, which can cause irritation in some women.

    Silicone is ultra-moisturizing and doesn’t break down in water, so it is extremely long-lasting. It’s also great for massage, so you get a dual purpose from this type of lubricant. However, you need to be careful if you looking to use your lubricant with toys as some silicone-based lubricants paradoxically cannot be used with silicone toys.

    The latest in the range of lubricants are the 'his and hers' - one is invigorating for him, the other thrilling for her and together they add up to a totally new experience! This may just add a little excitement and anticipation — and there’s nothing wrong with that!

    Below is an infographic which provides a good guide to one which product is best for you. After all it is your body and it is important you take care of it.

    Which Lube

    If you'd like to see our range, you can check it out here - the 'System Jo' range (no, not named after me!) is exceptional quality and we have a product to suit every need. http://www.pashparties.com.au/index.php/shop/love-toys/lubricants.html

    Here is a good article on the subject, but if you have a question you need answered, please let us know!. http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/advice/lube-during-sex

    Yours PASHionately

    JO

  • How to improve you love life in one easy step....

    We invest so much time in many aspects of our lives: our work, our family, our friends, our hair, our clothes. When's the last time you spent time investing in your relationship?

    We all lead such busy lives that by the time you get home, sort dinner out, do the washing, clean up and sort the kids out, you are generally exhausted! Sex? OMG, the LAST thing on your mind! Sleep seems a far more pleasurable option than anything else.

    However, keeping the romance and intimacy alive is critical to ensuring long term relationships remain just that.

    You need a new approach to time and energy management, especially when it comes to making time (and saving enough energy) for love making with your partner. The key is a small shift in your perspective. My one easy step?

    Have a PASH party. We have a new catalogue and seriously, if this doesn't motivate you to invest some time in playtime, then I don't know what will. If you don't want a party, check out the new catalogue on the front page and be inspired!

    My three other top tips are as follows:

    1. Change your attitude - recognise you are in a relationship and that relationships are about compromise. If you wait until you both are in the mood at the same time, you might be waiting a long time! The key is intimacy, even if you are tired, you are never too tired to cuddle. You need to work at keeping the romance alive.

    2. Make it fun - you don't need to turn into a dominatrix or wear a costume, just relax and try something a little different. The goal is to challenge the status quo, so rather than jump into bed and 'assume the position' why not surprise your lover by slipping into some sexy lingerie or offering to use a massage candle or body paint. Laughter followed by lots of 'ooh' and 'aahs' should be the result.

    3. Get creative - location, location, location. Why not try somewhere different for a change? You'll never look at the kitchen table in quite the same way again..

    Above all, enjoy!

    Yours with PASHion
    Jo

  • Great Sex at 75

    I noticed a cover of a women's magazine the other day featuring Jane Fonda with the headline: 'Great Sex at 75'. A quick flick through the mag revealed that Jane is having 'the best sex of her life at 75' and I thought fabulous, there is finally something to look forward to in old age!

    Of course, I'm not sure this is the same for everyone, but I personally found it inspirational to see a headline extolling the virtues of getting older (for once). We hear so much about how our libido decreases as we get older so to think that in many (many) decades to come I can expect to continue to enjoy a highly pleasurable experience with my partner excites me.

    I do, however, appreciate that this isn't the case for all women. I know many young women struggle with their sex drive, particularly after having children. And there are so many other aspects of our lives that seek to suck the 'sex' out of us - work commitments, sleepless nights, family drama, long term relationships, house work, I could go on. All of these can have the effect of putting a virtual 'cold spoon' on our libido 'erection'.

    The reality for women is that we just need something to help us get in the mood for desire. Given the philosophy of PASH is to inspire women to live a life more pleasurable, I find this issue is a really intriguing dilemma and something that I am very PASHionate about finding a solution for.

    If you find you are in a situation where you want to feel the desire, but are struggling to motivate your mojo, you can help yourself in a number of ways. The first thing is understanding what turns you on, so that you can guide your lover, and also so that you can mentally create the connection with your mojo.

    It is also about setting the scene for romance and seduction through creating an inviting environment. Touch and intimacy are crucial components to feeling desire and I think, to help this, that one of the most gorgeous products we sell is the Booty Parlor Massage Candle. If you've not tried it, do yourself a favour.

    Of course, sometimes all you need to do is just try something a little different - take yourself out of your comfort zone. If you feel silly dressing up, but you know your partner loves it, compromise with stockings, high heels and lingerie that you feel good in. You get the idea.

    It does take a bit of work, and you do need to want to get there, but if you too believe that enjoying sexual pleasure is the utopia of life and orgasms are the ultimate (and 100% natural) high, then I say the investment is well worth it.

    Live, Love, Laugh with PASHion
    Jo

  • Have you been Sex Squatted?

    Beware single ladies, there is a new trend on the streets - 'Sex Squatting'! And while it may sound like an exciting new sex position to try out, you could end up with more than you bargained for in the shape of dirty laundry and another mouth to feed!

    The New York Times reported on the trend:

    Forget bed bugs. There’s a new parasite moving into apartments. This one has two feet, a sex drive, and travels with a duffel bag. Called "sex squatting", these “sex gypsies” refers to people who hook up largely so they have a place to stay. They’re not quite homeless, but they’d rather go to your place than theirs. And they’d like to stay for as long as possible.

    Understandably the trend relates more to men than women due to desirability of residence - let's face it, the majority of single men can't remember the last time they washed their sheets, let alone cleaned the toilet!

    Actually, I have a friend who once had a 'sex squatter'. A guy she hooked up with that had just moved to Australia from overseas and he had no where to stay. It worked out very nicely for him and, from what she told me, the sex on tap was amazing, so good for her for a while. However, he eventually dumped her, but wouldn't move out. Then even when she eventually got him out of the house, he left all his stuff at her place. The last I heard she dumped his stuff on the pavement and finally ended the squat!

    Yours PASHionately
    Jo

  • School of Orgasms

    Orgasms are one of the best feelings in the world. Fact. But what if they could be even better?! Say what! More and more women are heading to orgasmic meditation classes to get their rocks off on a whole new level – this is one #sextrend we really like.

    Labelled OMing, these classes are made specifically for women, but not shy ones because you will be getting touched up by your BF or a stranger (!) in the class. But for a better climax, would you consider going?

    OMing, which began all the way back in the 1960s, is about using meditation and prolonged masturbation to get harder, stronger, longer “Os”. So these classes are designed to teach women how to do this and involves stimulating the clitoris for a whole 15 minutes! Tens of thousands of women have done these classes in the US and their popularity is on the rise.

    The founder Nicole Daedone, whose San Francisco-based company One Taste runs workshops, says OMing is about enjoying the now. She told UK Metro, “Orgasmic meditation (OM) is a practice done between two people that has no goal, except to feel what is happening in the moment.”

    “OM is not about climax (yes, orgasm and climax are different). It’s about expanding the most pleasurable part of the orgasm,” she added.

    One US Cosmo journo who took the class for a, ahem, spin said, “Our orgasm trainer, Ken, a normal-looking 30-something, explained the technique, then proceeded to demonstrate on our other trainer, Rachel (Ken's girlfriend).

    “On a bunch of pillows that became a sort of orgasm nest, she—yes—got bottomless, then Ken set a timer and, palm facing down, used his left pointer finger to massage her infamous upper-left quadrant."

    Read about when our resident sexual guinea pig attended an orgasm school.

    Sexpert Nikki Goldstein isn’t so sure the classes are right for all women though, “Everyone is different and by saying, 'You must spend 15 minutes in that one spot', it can be negative because putting deadlines of coming can just add a lot of pressure. And not everyone can orgasm through manual masturbation so these classes might make these women feel inferior.” Not to mention the fact that it’s all public – eek.

    OMing teaches you that the “upper left quadrant” is the most pleasurable spot, but many sexperts disagree, claiming that the whole clitoris is equally sensitive. Sexologist Yvonne K. Fulbright told Cosmo she'd never heard of the upper-left quadrant of the clitoris being a special spot, but the idea that spending 15 minutes to get a woman turned on could make her orgasm stronger wasn't BS.

    “I think there are different sweet spots that are more sensitive for people [on the clitoris] but it varies for everyone,” adds Goldstein.

    While the classes aren’t available here yet, Aussie chicks can still turn to sex coaching with qualified therapists to get private lessons on technique and Tantra workshops at the Australian School of Tantra to learn how to maximise their O. Our resident sexpert once even tried tantric dancing.

  • Has cyber sex replaced the real thing?

    Is it just me, or are relationships evolving in line with technology? A few years ago you met someone, went out and, if you liked (or, let's be honest, lusted them) eventually you ended up in bed together. This was either great (procurer to 'let's see each other again') or not so hot ('I'll call you'.... Not). What you knew about them was based on what your friends thought or what they said (or did).

    These days you find a man through a dating site and know more about them BEFORE you have ever even laid eyes on them in the flesh. You Google, Facebook, Link In, etc their profile and find out pretty much everything. Hell, you may have been 'cyber intimate' with them (my mum used to warn me about 'heavy petting' these days your mum would warn you about 'sexting' or 'dirty phone pictures') before you get to speak with them!

    Call me old fashioned, but I quite like to meet someone, be able look at them in the eye, see their body language and definitely ensure that their photo matches their profile before I end up 'cyber shagging'.... but that's just me...

    Yours PASHionately

    Jo Jo xxx

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