PASH Australia

  • Pregnancy Sex

    For those of you who, like me, had to dedicate time every month to 'baby making sex' you'll know it's not usually the most romantic of sexual experiences with your partner. The pressure to perform on cue to deliver a specific result may be what it is designed for in the procreation of the species type of role, but not in the more desired 'let's make hot, passionate love' experience.

    So once you're pregnant, what happens then? You usually find out your pregnant within 5-8 weeks, which means you have a good eight months of baby growing. So how do you approach your sex life then?

    Of course every women is different. Every woman will have different desires and physical effects as a result of the pregnancy. In the early stages, when you don't look pregnant you will generally feel differently to when you are obviously protruding. Logistics aside, many women feel anxious about whether it is safe to have sex during pregnancy.

    The good news is that it's actually quite beneficial to have sex during pregnancy. Other than keeping the connection with your partner and releasing all those amazing feel good endorphins, it also helps to strengthen your pelvic floor muscles.

    Of course there are lots of physical and mental changes going on during pregnancy, so you may feel different and experience different sensations than you normally do. Changing your normal routine to suit your changing needs is a great idea - make sure you share how you are feeling and what you desire with your partner. Communication goes a long way.

    As the baby grows you'll need to rethink sexual positions. Missionary is not a good idea as it puts pressure on heart, lungs and baby. The good news is that there are lots of other positions that will ensure your comfort.

    We always suggest you use body safe lubricants, but during pregnancy it is especially important that you check the product you are using. Check the ingredients and make sure it is safe for use during this time.

    If in doubt, ask your doctor for advice. Don't be embarrassed, remember they do know how you got pregnant in the first pace.

    Yours with PASHion, Jo XOXO

  • Nokia Nookie

    I just read an article about women in India using their old Nokia phones as vibrators! Apparently the vibrations on these old phones is strong and a great way to get them off! While it's bizarre what some women will resort to, with toys going for less than $50, we would advise you to invest in a nice silicone toy that is specifically designed for pleasure!

  • Pinkbox

    I've just read a post from an amazing lady who has created a company that supplies free sanitary products for girls and women who can't afford to purchase it. Every month we treat our periods as an inconvenience, but, for most of us, thankfully we don't have to worry about not being able to get the products we need. Clearly that isn't the case for everyone and this is a great initiative for those girls and women that need the help and support.

    We've donated and hope that this initiative is supported and respected and not abused by people.


    "Boys laugh at me when blood stained my uniform and eventually I just stayed home when I got my period" this is the story for many girls in Australia who's family simply cannot afford pads and tampons.

    So when I say today this FREE Dignity Vending #pinkbox machine is being installed in a school in Australia on Monday in Melbourne, I can't tell you how proud we are. So proud that we were all able to make a real difference to girls and women in need.

    When hearing that girls like 14 year old Sophie who stayed home from school last week because her mum couldn't afford to pay for sanitary items when Sophie got her period a few days behind her payday, makes us so grateful that we are now able to help.

    The idea of this being an issue for teenage girls when things are already tough enough just makes me mad.

    We now need to stock this machine and the other 20 machines which are all rolling out across Australia in the next few weeks. Each #periodpack costs $2.50 and if everyone on this page just donated one box could you imagine what we could do!! #dignityforgirls

  • 5 Ways to One 'O' Happy Ending

    Given the weather is getting colder and people are looking for excuses to stay indoors, I thought I would share an excellent challenge for you to try with your partner. The challenge is called 'how many different types of orgasms can I have?' - read up so you know what you're looking for and then get ready for a fun night in!

    Many women don't realise that there are many ways to orgasm. Of course all deliver the one happy ending, but the origin can vary the intensity of the orgasm. There are different schools of thought on whether there are four or five, but given this is a challenge, we're going to go with five, so you have more fun!

    1. The Clitoral Orgasm - results from direct stimulation of the clitoris. This is how most women orgasm and these orgasms tend to bursts of short-lasting pleasure.
    2. The Vaginal Orgasm - this is also known as the 'G-Spot' orgasm. These orgasms tend to be more long lasting, but many women struggle to achieve this type of orgasm from just sex alone. A great idea is to use a G-Spot love toy and see if you can find the allusive pleasure spot.
    3. The Blended Orgasm - this is when you achieve both clitoral and vaginal orgasm simultaneously. These orgasms tend to be massive and long lasting - so worth the investment in time!
    4. The Coregasm - ok, so we're not 100% sure about this one, but we're told these are orgasms triggered by exercise. Apparently they are less intense, but still pleasurable. Anything that gets you working out more is got to be good, right?
    5. The Skin Orgasm - I love this concept, it's apparently triggered by listening to a favourite song or music and manifests in 'chills' or 'goose bumps. It's called 'Frissions' and gives you that fabulous tingling sensation.

    No matter how many orgasms you are able to manage, surely the fun is in experimenting! Happy hunting.

    Yours with PASHion, Jo xoxo

  • Russia, Protect Your Women!

    Last night I was watching a really interesting documentary on Dateline (SBS) about Russia. It looked at many facets of the country and influences that are shaping the future of the nation.

    I was finding it all fascinating until the show highlighted a law that has just passed in the Russian parliament - the decriminalisation of domestic violence. Apparently the Russians don't believe the state should interfere in family life.

    The poor women of Russia who are stuck in awful situations will have no legal way to turn. And with strict protest laws which mean protesters are not allowed to stand together, women wanting to change the laws have a hard time being heard.

    Looks like Russia is heading back to the dark ages.


  • Sexual Arousal Disorder - What you should know

    We all have times when we're simply just not in the mood and the thought of 'sex' is about as appealing as a plate of cold brussel sprouts.  But that is very different to those women who suffer from Sexual Arousal Disorder who essentially are not able to get or maintain sexual excitement.

    So what happens here and how do you know if your relationship is just off the boil, or you should be seeking help? Essentially the things to look for are persistent or frequent inability to not only not 'feel' sexual excitement  but also for the body to not react to excitement. This means you don't produce adequate lubrication or you're unable to physically respond to the feeling of sexual excitement. This causes personal distress and can also cause difficulties with your sexual partner.

    From all reports its a fairly common condition experienced by many women. There are a range of reasons as to why this might happen. There are physiological reasons such as menopause, atrophic vaginitis, pelvic radiotherapy and diabetes. There are also psychological factors that can trigger the disorder, such as relationship conflict, emotional trauma, mental health issues and many more. Sometimes it is just a lack of knowledge about your own body that can lead to challenges.

    So what can you do about it? Unfortunately we still don't have a 'female Viagra' available, so simply popping a pill the way that men can for a quick solution is not an option. There are, however, a number of other options that you can try including various hormone treatments, devices and of course therapy.

    The best option - find a doctor that is both sympathetic and also knowledgeable in this area and seek help. The worst option, just putting up with it and being miserable. If you're suffering, you don't need to, seek help.

    Yours PASHionately, Jo xoxo

    man and women in bed back to each other

  • 'Ageism' the new Female Battleground

    As a mother who has worked extensively in the corporate world over the years, I know the challenges faced by working mum's balancing the child / work life.

    For those of you who, like me, have worked in senior positions you'll know the stress that comes from having to leave half way through a meeting to dash off to pick up the kids - in my case usually with the disapproving looks from my male counterparts or from young, yet to be, mothers who don't quite yet understand.

    Many women have also sacrificed their careers to become a mother, opting not to become partners or take on more senior roles that will inevitably require a greater time commitment. Some women are able to work around it with nannies and lots of support, but not every women has the financial ability to do that, and many women also don't want to sacrifice the time with their children.

    So if that isn't challenging enough, it would appear that research has confirmed what we know all too well that when women get into their 50s and 60s, keeping and getting a job is much, much harder.  For women who's children have grown up and are ready to get back into the workforce, it's just not that easy.

    With an ever aging population and life expectancy much higher, society is going to have to change the way it views women. We're getting there with gender equality, but we have a long way to go to recognising that turning 50 literally is now 'middle age'. With probably some 50 more years to live, there is still plenty of living to do and a great deal to contribute to society!

    Ageism is the new sexism - Mumbrella


  • Is there anything a mother wouldn't do?

    Well known Australian author Kathy Lette has just released her latest book entitled' Best Laid Plans' about her autistic son Julius. She's a dedicated mother and when she talks about her son she coins a phrase I think is really poignant, 'As my son has taught me, there is no such thing as normal and abnormal, just ordinary and extraordinary.'

    While the book is a work of fiction, in the book she talks about a real life scenario where Jules was desperate to lose his virginity before his 21st birthday. Desperate to help her son who, prior to this time had not had a girlfriend, she considered hiring a prostitute.

    It's an interesting dilemma. Does everyone deserves the right to a happy, fulfilling sexual life no matter what their life circumstances? And if so, how as a mother, if you have a disabled child, can you help them achieve their desire?

    I once watched a documentary on SBS about female sex workers that work with disabled people. One of the  stories included a mother who had facilitated the union for her son who had severe cerebral palsy. It was a true sign of a mother's love. Mentally the son was just a young man wanting to explore his sexual side, but physically he was unable to procure that on his own.

    There is good news for those mother's in that situation who want to assist - a charitable organisation called 'Touching Base' which connects people with a disability with sex workers.

    There are also trained 'sexual assistants' who also operate in this space that can provide assistance.

    Of course, no matter what the situation is, ensuring the person is educated about sex and ensures safe sex practice is important.

    Yours PASHionately, Jo

    Dymocks Best Laid Plans Book


  • Screamer or Moaner?

    Unless your friendships are as open as the 'Sex and the City' girls, there will be many things you don't often discuss with your girlfriends. One of the topics probably not slipped in between 'where are you going Friday night?' and 'what did you do on the weekend?' is about their orgasms.

    I remember when I was younger and not sexually active (but definitely sexually intrigued) a friend who was in a sexual relationship with her boyfriend told me she had experienced an orgasm. While I had vaguely heard about this intriguing experience, I honestly thought she was making it up. That it didn't exist. I got the male ejaculation, that was sex ed 101, but I thought the female version was just a myth. Thank goodness I was wrong!

    Thankfully the majority of women are able to orgasm so are aware of the intense sensation of pleasure it produces, but what many women don't realise is that there are many types of orgasms. So in the interests of ensuring you have maximum opportunities for pleasure here's a little Orgasm 101:

    1. Clitoral - there are 8,000 nerve endings there, so no wonder it delivers one hell of a pleasure punch. This is also the most common type of orgasm that women experience. In fact, it is often quoted that around 75% of women need clitoral stimulation to climax.
    2. Vaginal - vagina orgasms are generated through stimulation of the 'g-spot'. Not many women can orgasm purely from penetration alone, but spending time withe your partner or yourself to explore this option can be fun.
    3. Blended - experts say that a combined clitoral and vaginal orgasm is the most intense, it can double the impact. For that reason alone - we believe it's like the holy grail of the 'O'.
    4. Multiple - this is actually a series of orgasms, one after the next. Like getting icecream, with cream, chocolate and cherries - amazing!

    I'd like to wish you a wonderful time discovering all the different 'O's.

    female-orgasmYours PASHionately


  • Lust for life - is there sex after 80?

    Apparently life doesn't begin at 40 anymore, it's now 80! Well, maybe not 'life' per se, but certainly it seems that your sex life is actually in for some exciting times when the rest of your body may not be at it's peak. Good news for women heading to the golden years.

    A new survey shows that 'sex survivors' in their eighties are reaping the benefits of lovemaking more than ever. But don't get too excited, it looks like only 10% of women are having that experience at that age so don't give up now!

    Dr David Lee, a research fellow at Manchester University’s School of Social Sciences, calls them “sexual survivors” – people over the age of 80 who still enjoy an active sex life. In a report written with Professor Josie Tetley, using data from the English Longitudinal Study of Ageing, he notes that while physical challenges (erectile difficulties, for instance) occured more frequently with age, the emotional side of sex appeared more fulfilling for people over 80. Men and women in this age bracket reported more shared sexual compatibility and emotional closeness than those in their 50s, 60s and 70s – which sounds like good news for anyone going through a drought in middle age.


    Sex isn’t defined by penetration, says Lee – some older people find more imaginative ways to keep their sex lives active. “We saw quite a lot of adaptation in the older people, saying they no longer had penetrative sexual intercourse and were more content with kissing and cuddling and general intimacy. We kept a very broad definition of sex. We saw what appeared to be adaptive behaviour in the older members of our sample.”

    Don’t bank on hitting your sexual peak so late, though. The problem is, having a sex life at all in your 80s is far from guaranteed. Only about one in 10 women aged 85 or older, and nearly one-quarter of men of that age, enjoy one. “They’re a minority, clearly, but they’re an interesting minority,” says Lee. “Among those who were [sexually active], it was quite interesting that they seemed happy with their sexual lives.”

    Lee is studying what it takes to become a sexual survivor. There is likely to be a range of factors, he says. Having a partner is important, of course, and many people in their 80s have been widowed. “I would envisage that these [sexual survivors] are the healthiest people in older age,” he adds. Medication, for instance, can interfere with sex drive and ability.

    Sexually active octogenarians are still considered such a curiosity that documentaries are made about them (such as Channel 5’s Party Pensioners, which featured an octogenarian burlesque dancer, and Sex and the Silver Gays, a film about older gay men who go to sex parties). Sites aimed at millennials run interviews with them, too – in 2015, Vice published an interview with an 82-year-old called Chris Wilson about his exploits on Grindr (he said he found the hook-up app “especially helpful when travelling. When I was in London, England, I got hit on by about 40 guys. I had sex eight times in seven days!”).

    Lee says we need to get used to the idea that some older people may want a fulfilling sex life – and take seriously the means to allow them to achieve this. “We’re simply trying to broaden the discussion around sex and saying, irrespective of age, there is a need for joined-up healthcare services that people can access if they wish. We’re seeing from the comments in our survey [that] when older people try to access healthcare [for] sexual problems they have come across dismissal: ‘You should expect it at your age.’” But Lee has also seen how it becomes internalised in older people: “They think: ‘It’s not relevant to me any more.’” Better, instead, to know you could enjoy a later-life sexual peak.

    Lust for Life

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