Baby Making Sex...the ultimate turn off.

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You would think a directive to have sex as frequently as possible would be heaven for most women and men, right? Welcome to the world of 'Baby Making Sex' and, if you've not been there, it's not quite the dream you might think.

At the start, sure, it's fun and exciting but as the months roll on the monthly forced 'baby making' zone is approached with about as much enthusiasm as a pap smear.

I remember it well. While we fell pregnant easily with our first, the second involved a rigorous schedule that I approached like a well structured project. The 'time of the month' took on a whole new meaning and I was emotionally charged - my poor partner, I'm not quite sure how he coped!

Too much focus on procreation for a purpose (other than pleasure) can be off putting for both parties. The pressure to perform can be intense and can make the whole process an unenjoyable prospect. This, of course, doesn't help the overall cause which is structured around love making, which then puts even more pressure on the both of you. It can cause quite a strain. At a time like this, a strong healthy relationship is important. If things are not going so well, you need to work quickly to change the dynamics and get an uplift in the status quo.

The first, and I think most important, thing to do is a mind-shift in the way you approach sex with your partner. One of the best ways is to remove yourself from your standard love making room, the bedroom - it's time to have a weekend off and go somewhere you both love so that you can reconnect. Before you go, refresh your bedroom so that when you get back after your trip you don't slip straight back into the negative mindset.

The other key is communication. You need to talk to your partner about how you are feeling, it can really take the pressure off.

I'm pleased to say that there is some good news! It turns out that an orgasm can actually facilitate pregnancy! Dr. Ava Cadell, spokesperson for The Experience Channel and renowned love and sex therapist, says that reaching orgasm is even more important in terms of baby making than the position you do the deed in itself. When a woman has an orgasm, her uterine wall contracts, and these contractions, in turn, have a vacuum-like effect, sucking the sperm up and moving them closer to the egg. "Since only 25 percent of women can achieve orgasm through intercourse, it's best to use a vibrator to stimulate the clitoris during penetration and help ensure one,” she notes.

So whatever happens, you now have a qualified medical reason for your toy collection!

Yours PASHionately... Jo x

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