Orgasm More and Be Happy!

Orgasms - a simple, pleasurable way to greater happiness.

Good news on the happiness stakes, it's as simple as getting a good dose of Oxytocin. If only we could take a daily pill, we'd all be singing 'Because I'm happy...' all day long. From what I understand our modern world is causing all sorts of imbalances in our bodies.

I read a great quote in an article on the weekend by naturopath Janella Purcell: "Many of the women I see in my clinic are overbusy, overachieving and they don't have the pair bonding that happens when a woman feels she can depend on another person. Women feel they have to grow the bacon, cook the bacon, look sexy while they serve the bacon and make sure the bacon is free-range, organic and nitrate-free, as well as bring it home." It got me thinking, are we sabotaging our happiness with our modern lives?

Oxytocin is known as the 'bliss hormone' - it makes us happy! There are a few situations when this hormone is naturally generated in the body such as during childbirth and breastfeeding. As a mother of two beautiful girls, I can safely say that regular childbirth is definitely NOT my chosen method of receiving ongoing oxytocin blasts!

The good news is that sex is also a stimulant for oxytocin release. So, if we all had more sex, we could all be happy more often? Sounds like a simple and easy solution, right? If only it was that practical.

The article really resonated with me. As women we try and be superwoman in every aspect of our lives. It can be tiring, really tiring. That combined with the havoc that stress, and the impact every day hormonal changes, can play on a women make the desire for bed, to sleep, sadly so much more attractive than indulging in a good session with our partners.

Maintaining our intimate relationships with our partners takes 'work'. Sometimes you need to put in the effort, even if you're not 'in the mood.' Of course the good news is that it inevitably ends up being very pleasurable work, but it does require effort.

A girlfriend once told me that every Monday morning she has 'maintenance' sex - the sex that her and her husband have, as a routine,  to keep their relationship connected. I think there is something in that. I know that if my partner and I haven't had sex for a little while I feel the intimacy in our relationship start to pull away, the close bonding and sharing of an intimate moment pulls it back together, even if it's only a 'quickie'.

If you're in a relationship and you want to stay in the relationship, I really believe it's important for women to make a conscious decision to work on all aspects of the relationship, including the intimacy.

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