I noticed a cover of a women's magazine the other day featuring Jane Fonda with the headline: 'Great Sex at 75'. A quick flick through the mag revealed that Jane is having 'the best sex of her life at 75' and I thought fabulous, there is finally something to look forward to in old age!
Of course, I'm not sure this is the same for everyone, but I personally found it inspirational to see a headline extolling the virtues of getting older (for once). We hear so much about how our libido decreases as we get older so to think that in many (many) decades to come I can expect to continue to enjoy a highly pleasurable experience with my partner excites me.
I do, however, appreciate that this isn't the case for all women. I know many young women struggle with their sex drive, particularly after having children. And there are so many other aspects of our lives that seek to suck the 'sex' out of us - work commitments, sleepless nights, family drama, long term relationships, house work, I could go on. All of these can have the effect of putting a virtual 'cold spoon' on our libido 'erection'.
The reality for women is that we just need something to help us get in the mood for desire. Given the philosophy of PASH is to inspire women to live a life more pleasurable, I find this issue is a really intriguing dilemma and something that I am very PASHionate about finding a solution for.
If you find you are in a situation where you want to feel the desire, but are struggling to motivate your mojo, you can help yourself in a number of ways. The first thing is understanding what turns you on, so that you can guide your lover, and also so that you can mentally create the connection with your mojo.
It is also about setting the scene for romance and seduction through creating an inviting environment. Touch and intimacy are crucial components to feeling desire and I think, to help this, that one of the most gorgeous products we sell is the Booty Parlor Massage Candle. If you've not tried it, do yourself a favour.
Of course, sometimes all you need to do is just try something a little different - take yourself out of your comfort zone. If you feel silly dressing up, but you know your partner loves it, compromise with stockings, high heels and lingerie that you feel good in. You get the idea.
It does take a bit of work, and you do need to want to get there, but if you too believe that enjoying sexual pleasure is the utopia of life and orgasms are the ultimate (and 100% natural) high, then I say the investment is well worth it.
Live, Love, Laugh with PASHion
Jo
